Today I want to talk to you about a very common struggle – social anxiety. That knot of worry in your stomach before a party, the self-consciousness that makes you blush during a presentation – these are all signs of social anxiety, and let me assure you, you’re not alone.
The good news is, that social anxiety is highly treatable, and one of the most effective approaches is cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). In CBT, we work together to understand the cycle of thought, feelings, and behaviour that fuel your anxiety.
Imagine your social anxiety as a tiger. It might seem fierce, but with the right tools, you can learn to manage it.
Here’s how CBT helps:
* Challenging negative thoughts: Often, social anxiety whispers distorted thoughts like, “Everyone will judge me,” or “I’ll say something stupid.” CBT helps you identify these “hot thoughts” and challenge them with more realistic evidence. Maybe you remember past conversations where people listened and enjoyed your company.
* Building coping skills: Feeling overwhelmed? CBT equips you with tools like relaxation techniques (deep breathing, mindfulness) to manage anxiety in the moment.
* Gradual exposure therapy: This is where we gently expose you to the situation that triggers your anxiety. We start small, maybe striking up a conversation with a cashier, and gradually work our way up to more challenging situations. This helps you build confidence and realize that the worst-case scenarios rarely happen.
Remember, this is a journey, not a race. Be kind to yourself, celebrate your progress, and don’t be afraid to ask for support.
Here are some additional tips:
* Self-compassion: Social anxiety can be tough. Treat yourself with the same kindness you’d offer a friend.
* Focus on the present: Worrying about the future or replaying past mistakes fuels anxiety. Practice mindfulness to stay grounded in the current moment.
* Positive self-talk: Replace negative self-criticism with encouraging affirmations. You are capable and worthy of connection.
If you are struggling with social anxiety, reach out to a therapist who specializes in CBT. Together you can tame the tiger and build a more fulfilling social life.
You’ve got this!
With compassion,
Hila
IH Psychotherapy is a practice located in Vaughan, Ontario. Our team provides in-person and virtual therapy. We serve clients in Thornhill, Richmond Hill, North York, Toronto, Woodbridge, Markham, Newmarket, and Maple. Our virtual therapy services enable us to support clients in the Greater Toronto Area such as Mississauga, Brampton, Etobicoke and cities throughout Ontario.
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